How To Pick Music For Your Wedding: 5 Factors To Consider

Wedding Planning

Picking the music for your wedding may seem like an easy task, but many couples find it can become surprisingly difficult when you sit down to finally do it. The challenge grows even tougher if you and your partner have different tastes in music.

To help, we’ve compiled a helpful guide for picking the right music for your wedding day. 

Picking Music For Your Wedding Reception and Ceremony

Here’s how to make sure your big day sounds as pretty as it looks:

1. Decide on your aesthetic. Some questions you should ask yourself:

  • Do I want my wedding to be formal or informal? You want your music to match the aesthetic of your decor and the guests’ attire. 
  • Do I want traditional music or modern music? Once you know the time period you want your music to come from, you can narrow down your selection. 
  • Do I have concerns about offending people? If so, you may want to check our list of inappropriate wedding songs. 

2. Think about the moments you want to highlight. Most couples decide to have a special song highlight the biggest moments of the ceremony and reception. That could include moments like:

  • Mom’s Processional
  • Bridesmaids Procession
  • Bride’s Procession
  • Introduction Music
  • First Dance
  • Cake Cutting

Decide on which moments your wedding ceremony and reception will have, then start your music selection. For assistance, use our Planning Resources or visit our roundup of popular wedding ceremony and reception songs. 

Women Dancing at a Wedding Reception

3. Look for inspiration. There are plenty of ways to come up with great songs for your wedding day:

  • Think of the songs that have been important in your relationship with your fiancé. Maybe there was a romantic song on a playlist you made for the other person, or maybe there’s a song you discovered on a road trip together.
  • Look through YouTube for songs other people have played at their wedding. 
  • Flip through our list of song recommendations for your wedding ceremony and reception. You can’t go wrong with the tried-and-true favorites !
  • Watch your favorite romantic comedies and listen to the soundtrack in the background. You’ll likely find a track you both love, and you can also turn this into a movie night for you and your fiancé!

4. Decide on a DJ or a live musician/band. The decision on who’s performing the music can be just as impactful as the music itself. The individual in charge of the music on your big day is also in charge of keeping the day moving and feeling out the crowd to make sure everyone remains happy and upbeat. Remember: Whether you go with a DJ or live musicians, you may need to alert them ahead of time if you want to play an unusual or lesser-known song. DJs will have to make sure they have access to the track on-site, and musicians made need to add the tune to their repertoire.

5. Does it sound cohesive? Once you have decided on your wedding music playlist, listen to it from start to finish to make sure it sounds cohesive. If you decide to play “Uptown Funk” by Mark Ronson between “Shape of My Heart” (by The Backstreet Boys) and “(God Must Have Spent) A Little More Time On You” (by ‘NSYNC), you’ll certainly raise a few eyebrows. 

With the right music selected, you can ensure the most important day in your relationship is as beautiful as you always envisioned.



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Steven Vance has provided high-quality corporate entertainment and wedding music for over 20 years and more than 10,000 special events in Pennsylvania, Ohio, West Virginia, Maryland, DC, Virginia, New York, and surrounding areas.

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WEDNESDAY SEPTEMBER 16   Virtual Bridal Show at LoveStartsHere.com. From 7:00-8:30 PM log on and I will be playing the whole time while Susan answers your questions in the Chat feature. Request your favorite wedding song.


Steve, for the first time, will be at the New Eagle Castle in New Eagle PA, playing Electric Violin for an evening concert from 6:30-9 PM. You might want to bring chairs and sweaters but I believe there will be food trucks and beverages available.


Steve will be doing a PopRock Electric Violin and DJ Package for a Wedding Ceremony and Reception at Seven Springs Mountain Resort. 

We will also have performers doing weddings at Seven Springs (for a second wedding), The Mansion in Butler, Betsy's Barn in Portersville, Hampton Presbyterian Church, Gardens of Stonebridge, Bella Sera Event Venue and a family residence in Stoneboro PA.


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"I’m on my way to my honeymoon, but I wanted to send you a quick email to say thank you. Tiffany and Lorenzo were both fantastic and made sure my wedding was wonderful. Tiffany’s music was stunning, and it was easy to work with her. But what I really wanted to let you know was how wonderful Renzo was! He went above and beyond for me the entire time I was working with him. He was very communicative and easy to talk to in advance. He came out to visit the venues with me so that he would be prepared, and was generous with his time and very patient. He made sure he had all the info he needed. He was professional, and fun to work with. And he was a great DJ! Set everything up very well, kept the guests entertained, on the dance floor, and kept my timeline going. He even gave a little salsa lesson to my guests because I told him it would mean a lot to me, and everyone had a blast! Anyway, I’m sure you know all of this (and I need to get to my honeymoon), but he was so wonderful throughout, I just wanted to let you know :) I know he will do excellent work for many more of your brides in the future!"
Stephanie & Dustin  9/12/20 Tranquility Farm Purcellville VA Electric Violinist & DJ Package
"We just got back to New York yesterday and wanted to send a quick note to thank you again so very much for being a part of our bootleg backyard wedding on the 3rd. I'm so sorry that I didn't get a chance to say hi in-person - everything was such a whirlwind that day! This year has been a rocky one to say the least with everything going on in the world, but it was all so completely worth it to still be able to get married on our original date. You were a huge part of that, and we are forever grateful. Hope you have a great rest of the weekend, and we'll see the trio in December for the big wedding :)"
Caitlin & Matt 7/3/20 Private Residence in Somerset Solo Violinist Steven Vance

"Steve was a must-have for our wedding as he did my sister's 8 years ago (and we loved him) and should be a must-have for your event! Not only does he do an amazing job MC'ing and DJ'ing, and running the event, but the live violin - WOW! The violin adds elegance to your event that guests will continue to talk about for years to come.  Steve also is an expert in the field, leaving no worries for the bride-to-be in the event. I knew our reception would run perfectly with him in charge and it did. Highly recommend!!"     Paige & Russ 3/14/20  Soldiers & Sailors Hall

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